How to deal with separation anxiety post-lockdown

This pandemic has locked us all indoors with or without our loved ones. And if you've been thinking that being with your partner under the same roof in this lockdown is tough for you, then wait till you get back to the same routine like earlier times. People are going to experience a lot of things emotionally, amongst which separation anxiety will be the hardest.

01/ What is separation anxiety

Since you've all been stuck at home with your partners, it means you have both spent a lot of time together. And once the lockdown eases out, you will have to head back to your normal life, which can make you all the more anxious about coping up with your post-lockdown separation with your partner.

02/ How to adjust with more time apart from your partner

As much as you will acknowledge your own emotions once you step out into your routine, you must also bring into consideration that your partner might be feeling these emotions too. Now, this doesn't mean that they have to feel exactly what you are feeling, but they certainly might be feeling anxious on different levels. This is when you need to give yourself and your partner some time to cope up with your anxiety individually, rather than wanting to check on the other person at all times. Sometimes, you just have to leave the other person alone to deal with their matters by themselves. You can take as much time as you want to get accustomed to your routine and then go back home to take care of your partner. Probably that will help you balance out the emotions for both of you.

03/ What are the best ways to talk about this with your partner

This plainly depends on the kind of connection, bond and relationship that you have with your partner. Of course, if you're married, you might have already been on top of each other several times (physically and emotionally) during this lockdown. Which also means, you both might work your way into this conversation of how things will be once you get going with the normal life. But, if you both are casually dating, this lockdown must have either intensified or disrupted the normal flow of things. You both must have been with each other a lot more than you expected to see each other. And getting back to your routine might take a toll on both of you. In this case, it is recommended to check on each other once in a while and spend some time together once in two days to understand each other's emotions better. If you're thinking of going back to the normal life means getting rid of your partner for a while, don't do that. It's a pathetic idea.

04/ What should be the positive things to remember about your relationship once you go back to the routine

There will be a lot of things that you will be grateful for once this lockdown eases out and you go back to normal life. Of course, you will be thankful for all the times you both spent lazying around in bed and binge-watching movies. You will also be thankful for the times your partner made you delicious food and pampered you with some extra care without you asking for any of it. But more than the obvious things to be grateful for, you must think of it on a deeper level. You should be thankful for the values that you both inculcated in each other, how you both understood each other's personal and professional goals and also the fact that your partner is still the same person inside and out.

from LifeStyle