Emotionally unavailable in a relationship?

A relationship that has an emotionally unavailable partner doesn't go a long way. Being in love and being in a relationship with someone means investing your emotions and using your expressions to the extremes. If you won't be able to share and show what you feel and go through, the other person will never know you entirely and when you are emotionally unavailable, your partner might just keep drifting apart and eventually no longer be a part of your life anymore. No one likes a failed relationship and so, if you think you need to work on being more emotionally available as a partner in your relationship, there are a few tips that might help you.

01/ Self-introspection

Take a look at why you don't feel worthy of a loving relationship. Are you constantly thinking that if your lover will entirely know you, they will reject you? You and your partner need to explore why you are deserving and lovable. And especially you need to introspect why it's difficult for you to express your emotions or be emotionally available. If required, you can take help from a relationship counsellor.

02/ Make sure your partner's needs and feelings are equal to yours

In order to make your partner feel close to you and respect their feelings and needs, you need to be empathetic and compassionate towards them. It requires a certain kind of closeness. Put more focus and effort towards understanding this.

03/ Don't lead a secret life

If you're going to be emotionally unavailable as a partner, you might just lead a secret life with your lover not knowing most of it, which is wrong. You can't have a backup plan for the time when your relationship will fail. You see the rejection coming and so you keep a secret life which distances you from the other person. A relationship can't survive long with all such secrets. It requires transparency and you must allow your partner to know your life in and out.

04/ Make time for your partner

You must place your partner at the top of your priority list and not at the end. Make sure it is noticed through your actions and not just with your words. Because without any actions, your words are meaningless to show that your partner matters to you. Making time for them requires you to be available and accessible most of the time.

05/ Be responsible for your emotions

Take control over your temper and stop acting hurtful or saying things that can damage your partner's mental state. Don't threaten to leave the relationship if you don't get your way and don't use anger or personal attacks to bully your partner when things go down for you. Instead, tell your partner what is bothering you and try to sort it out together. Talk about your life's biggest disappointments and biggest dreams. As much as a healthy relationship requires physical touch, it also needs an emotional touch.

from LifeStyle